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T-1976
T-1976
41. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 6:48 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 6:48 PM EST
"hmm, the confidence is an anomaly. i got a lecture from a friend on that once.

there's no easy solution and no way you can suddenly change the personality you've had for x number of years just because someone told you too. here's the thing, you are confident in what you want right? the kind of girl you want? that's a start. next, you spot the girl that you are confident is that girl, don't hesitate to make it known then.

it's like how i am with different situations, put me in a class to teach art and i am soo sure of myself. basically it's because i know this is MY class and I am in charge and that I have control of the situation. i started a job not too long ago in which i am just a sales associate walking into a strange business where everyone already has their own relationships and....it's intimidating. suddenly, i'm not so confident, i'm a bit afraid and it shows. what i've been doing is trying to feed off of the confidence that i know to be part of my personality, and apply it to the new, uncomfortable situation.

part of getting there is recognizing that no one is better than you. if you look at this girl as if she is better than you already as i might look at this job as better because i'm not a 'higher up' it will show. you are a whole, complete person with feelings, desires, whatever you want... you are special too. she is no more special for having a lack of Y chromosome or a cute face"
I see......and yes, you're right.

Well, having thought about it.......yes, I AM confident in what i want in a girl. Though you cant tell what she's like just by looking at her....so thats where the conversation starts. I just wish more girls would break the ice first.

And just for the record............THATS MY POOL CUE! :) (8-ball in the corner pocket......Ooo-rah!) *takes a drink*
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Veran
42. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 6:48 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 6:48 PM EST
"9mm actually. no, um, don't know guns. perhaps someone could SUGgest what kind of gun is behind the counter. the governator visits on the frequent for his usual brew so do not be alarmed by any resemblance he may hold to an outfit stealing, sunglass wearing robot."
That's good to know. :)

I might bring an RPG, just in case. But I don't know if it will be very practical. Do you have any coasters big enough?
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Akuji
Akuji
43. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 6:50 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 6:50 PM EST
"*nonprodigal finally sits after having stood at the door to welcome her friends*

i hope this bar plays terminator: the sarah connor chronicles on those tvs. there's an episode tonight and i CANNOT miss it. ;-P
glad you could make it veran, we're not shut down quite yet.
akuji, could you pass me my crown and sprite? i think you took my seat. no worries, just want the drink. thank you =-)"
*Passes nonprodigal her drink and allows her to sit*

Yay not long to go now before we can all enjoy a good solid hour of T-SCC.
Also, being here may help cus with all this talk about a character being killed, some people may need some comfort depending on who that might be.

And don't worry Veran, no muscular naked men will walk into out little bar. He won't find any mean hell's angels in here that's for sure.
He would open the door, peer inside and a large bold inscription will appear on his HUD spelling "Inappropriate" and he will leave.

Now... are there any spare chairs in the storage room?
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Koudijs
Koudijs
44. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 6:52 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 6:52 PM EST
Um... not loney... but can i still have a drink?

I really need one... i waited a long time for my TSCC fix...
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nonprodigal
nonprodigal
45. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 6:57 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 6:57 PM EST
"Um... not loney... but can i still have a drink?

I really need one... i waited a long time for my TSCC fix..."
of course koudis, what doya need? i'll have bob at the counter whip up something.
here, akuji. best seat in the house. ;-P
*hands over the folding chair she'd pulled out for herself*

HEY BOB, GET THE CHAIRS OUTTA THE OFFICE! we've had more people show than expected!
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IvyMike
IvyMike
46. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:04 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:04 PM EST
"<snip> part of getting there is recognizing that no one is better than you. if you look at this girl as if she is better than you already as i might look at this job as better because i'm not a 'higher up' it will show. you are a whole, complete person with feelings, desires, whatever you want... you are special too. she is no more special for having a lack of Y chromosome or a cute face"
But that's kind of a catch too. A guy wants to regard a girl as special, the best thing in his life, not ordinary and mundane like his burping, farting male friends.

That's why it's frustrating when the smooth talking dudes who treat women as just another potential notch on the bedpost get all the luck.
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Veran
47. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:06 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:06 PM EST
"of course koudis, what doya need? i'll have bob at the counter whip up something.
here, akuji. best seat in the house. ;-P
*hands over the folding chair she'd pulled out for herself*

HEY BOB, GET THE CHAIRS OUTTA THE OFFICE! we've had more people show than expected!"
Bob? Not Uncle Bob? You said there won't be any Governators looking to chore our clothes. ;)
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Akuji
Akuji
48. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:08 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:08 PM EST
"of course koudis, what doya need? i'll have bob at the counter whip up something.
here, akuji. best seat in the house. ;-P
*hands over the folding chair she'd pulled out for herself*

HEY BOB, GET THE CHAIRS OUTTA THE OFFICE! we've had more people show than expected!"
Thanking you. *sits down*
ooh that is comfy.
Could you ask Bob to knock us up a drink? Not fussy, I'll have anything that happens to pop into your head.

So who's got the T-SCC party hats and party poppers?
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nonprodigal
nonprodigal
49. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:09 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:09 PM EST
"But that's kind of a catch too. A guy wants to regard a girl as special, the best thing in his life, not ordinary and mundane like his burping, farting male friends.

That's why it's frustrating when the smooth talking dudes who treat women as just another potential notch on the bedpost get all the luck."
no this woman.

be genuine. i can't stress that enough. i know the "talkers" get what they want a lot. they'll also "get it" in the end if you know what i mean
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nonprodigal
nonprodigal
50. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:10 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:10 PM EST
"Bob? Not Uncle Bob? You said there won't be any Governators looking to chore our clothes. ;)"
well he's my uncle, not your uncle.

i guess you can call him uncle if you want. lmao.

*the governator makes Veran say "uncle"*
rofl
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Koudijs
Koudijs
51. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:12 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:12 PM EST
"of course koudis, what doya need? i'll have bob at the counter whip up something.
here, akuji. best seat in the house. ;-P
*hands over the folding chair she'd pulled out for herself*

HEY BOB, GET THE CHAIRS OUTTA THE OFFICE! we've had more people show than expected!"
Just a Coke... then i'm good...
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Akuji
Akuji
52. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:19 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:19 PM EST
"But that's kind of a catch too. A guy wants to regard a girl as special, the best thing in his life, not ordinary and mundane like his burping, farting male friends.

That's why it's frustrating when the smooth talking dudes who treat women as just another potential notch on the bedpost get all the luck."
It's kinda like the old saying.
"Treat em mean to keep em keen"

I personally think it's a load of rubbish, but of course there are girls out there, that just don't care... and generally they are the ones you don't wanna settle down with.
There isn't that many truly nice girls out there anymore (or nice guys even) so if you do find one, and like her, chances are she will like you too. You just have to have self confidence, don't moan about the "smooth talking guys" just think to yourself that your better than them. In the end you will be the one in a very loving and caring relationship, and they wont.

It just seems the nice guy/girl thing is a dying remnant in today's society, and it's been replaced with the clubbing, drinking and "pulling" culture.
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T-1976
T-1976
53. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:30 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:30 PM EST
We used to call it "being a gentlemen"..........and i am afraid the art of being one is dying.

Perhaps women arent used to being treated well and as a result, pass us nice guys by ?

For me, the only thing i know how to do is engage in small talk...nothing big or fancy, nothing to show off........just small talk "hows the weather, do you like working where you work, whats your family like"....etc. Sure, im not the most exciting guy in the world.......but it IS being me, and thats what everyone says to do...be yourself.
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IvyMike
IvyMike
54. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:34 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:34 PM EST
"We used to call it "being a gentlemen"..........and i am afraid the art of being one is dying.

Perhaps women arent used to being treated well and as a result, pass us nice guys by ?

For me, the only thing i know how to do is engage in small talk...nothing big or fancy, nothing to show off........just small talk "hows the weather, do you like working where you work, whats your family like"....etc. Sure, im not the most exciting guy in the world.......but it IS being me, and thats what everyone says to do...be yourself. "
When I was younger there was a very militant strain of feminism sweeping through the place. Guys were scared to hold a door open for a woman (and I will hold a door open for anyone, male or female, it's just manners) lest they get snarled at.
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nonprodigal
nonprodigal
55. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 7:51 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 7:51 PM EST
i LOVE when a guy holds a door open, pays without question. i have been known to show my appreciation with what i consider the female equivalent: saying thank you all the time, buying cute little 'thinking of you' gifts.

story time: there was this guy at my high school, quite a stud. all the girls liked him because he was super good looking and stuck up to boot. one day, little nonprodigal is walking up to the front of the school. (i was not very attractive in early high school, mind you. and very shy) i was a little nervous and awestruck as i reached the door only about two steps behind him. he opened it for himself, turned and looked back at me, and let the door shut right as i got to it. that moment did it, i swore that i would never, ever show interest in him. he couldn't get me to date him if he begged and i never found him attractive again. my friends would oggle at times and i would keep my mouth shut because, in my opinion, he had shown his true colors. that same guy had a knife accident a year later and his perfect face was forever marred. he became a bit of a loner and sort of emo before his senior year ended.
sometimes those that shine that bright, can only shine for a short period before they burn out.

i am a bit of a feminist, i'm offended if you indicate that i'm dumb, slow, or weak for being a woman. holding a door is just being polite and niceties, imo, should always be welcome. i hold doors for people who are WAY out in the parking lot, just being a woman, i pass it off to them while passing through it. if it's someone old or with a child, stroller, or arms full or something like that, i'll hold it so they can pass through.
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Akuji
Akuji
56. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 8:07 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 8:07 PM EST
"i LOVE when a guy holds a door open, pays without question. i have been known to show my appreciation with what i consider the female equivalent: saying thank you all the time, buying cute little 'thinking of you' gifts.

story time: there was this guy at my high school, quite a stud. all the girls liked him because he was super good looking and stuck up to boot. one day, little nonprodigal is walking up to the front of the school. (i was not very attractive in early high school, mind you. and very shy) i was a little nervous and awestruck as i reached the door only about two steps behind him. he opened it for himself, turned and looked back at me, and let the door shut right as i got to it. that moment did it, i swore that i would never, ever show interest in him. he couldn't get me to date him if he begged and i never found him attractive again. my friends would oggle at times and i would keep my mouth shut because, in my opinion, he had shown his true colors. that same guy had a knife accident a year later and his perfect face was forever marred. he became a bit of a loner and sort of emo before his senior year ended.
sometimes those that shine that bright, can only shine for a short period before they burn out.

i am a bit of a feminist, i'm offended if you indicate that i'm dumb, slow, or weak for being a woman. holding a door is just being polite and niceties, imo, should always be welcome. i hold doors for people who are WAY out in the parking lot, just being a woman, i pass it off to them while passing through it. if it's someone old or with a child, stroller, or arms full or something like that, i'll hold it so they can pass through."
Very interesting story.

Similar one with me at school. I was never really Mr. Popular, or that confident at the time.
Back when I was about 11-13 my best friend at the time was an alright guy, very sporty, popular etc. but there was nothing wrong with him.
We grew away when we got older, cus he was... well kinda like the guy you described, and of course all the girls loved him. He had plans to get into prof football/soccer etc. I never disliked him, and we did get on okay, just wasn't what you would call friends.
I saw him a while ago in town now at the age of 21, and he's slightly overweight and very very ordinary looking.

Just like my mother says, just cus someone is good looking in school doesn't mean they will stay that way... and vise versa, if your not so good looking in school, doesn't mean your stuck that way.
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sidspappy
sidspappy
57. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 8:08 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 8:08 PM EST
Wow! Two different directions for this thread! Hopefully, everyone has a place in this club/bar for me. I want to be like "Norm" from the TV series "Cheers." When I come in, everyone will say "sidspappy!" and I can sit and have a Diet Pepsi while I watch TSCC with everyone else.

Oh, and nonprodigal, I am enjoying your female perspective on this thread. If you feel slighted by comments here, I apologize on behalf of everyone here. I was brought up in Hawaii, descended from Asian immigrant stock. I was always taught to be polite to a woman, respect your elders, and to generally not simply take up space and waste valuable oxygen. I may not be a gentleman in the true sense of the word, but I value gentlemanly behavior.
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IvyMike
IvyMike
58. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 3 2008, 8:28 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 3 2008, 8:28 PM EST
"i LOVE when a guy holds a door open, pays without question. i have been known to show my appreciation with what i consider the female equivalent: saying thank you all the time, buying cute little 'thinking of you' gifts."
I think that type of militant feminism has passed, but it's left guys confused. If a guy pays for dinner, he worries that it might be taken as an insult to her ability to support herself financially, or even worse that it's intended as an attempt to put some obligation (ie, sexual) on her.

There was a skit on a comedy show about it; a couple are having dinner in a restaurant, he says "Would you like to come back to my place?', and she says "So you think just because you bought me dinner I'm just going to fall into bed with you!".
Diners at other tables (including women) pipe up: "Well, it is a very expensive restaurant!"
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T-1976
T-1976
59. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 4 2008, 5:41 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 4 2008, 5:41 PM EST
Know what depresses me? *chugs bottle of Jack Daniels*

The fact that ACTORS are getting more action than me!!!!

*chugs the whole bottle..........collapses, dies of alcohol poisioning*
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Birdman117
Birdman117
60. RE: Club Lonely Hearts--Come in, have a drink
Nov 4 2008, 5:42 PM EST | Post edited: Nov 4 2008, 5:42 PM EST
"Know what depresses me? *chugs bottle of Jack Daniels*

The fact that ACTORS are getting more action than me!!!!

*chugs the whole bottle..........collapses, dies of alcohol poisioning*"
yea jack can do that...but it is good.
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